~ Chapter 1 ~
A Comparison of Temperaments and Life Styles that Affect Your Ability to Harmonize with Each Other
Harry's Sun in Virgo and Meghan's Sun in Leo:
You two are very different! Harry is more modest, self-effacing, shy, and unobtrusive than Meghan, who craves social approval, recognition, love, and applause. Meghan tends to step into the limelight and outshine or overpower Harry. Harry is more emotionally self-sufficient than Meghan is, and may not give Meghan all of the "strokes" and appreciation Meghan wants.
Harry also has a tendency to become fussy and particular, and these fits of perfectionism can have disastrous consequences when the target of Harry's critical eye is Meghan. Meghan is particularly sensitive to criticism and tends to interpret Harry's "constructive criticism" as a personal attack. Harry is more analytical and psychologically astute than Meghan, who may not appreciate being "picked apart" or psychologically analyzed by Harry! Another problem in this relationship is that Meghan may take for granted much of the work and assistance that Harry provides.
Harry's Moon in Taurus and Meghan's Moon in Libra:
Harmony, pleasantness, and peace in your home life and personal relationships is so important to both of you that you'll ignore or cover up the conflicts and differences that exist between you. Both of you are very uncomfortable expressing anger and afraid of creating upheaval. As the song goes, "you'd do anything to avoid a fight"! Of course, Meghan's innate diplomacy and courtesy, and Harry's slowness to take offense go a long way toward keeping your relationship smooth, but there are times when you need to look plainly at the problems, or you are bound to experience dissatisfactions at times.
For instance, one area that might be a problem is that Meghan enjoys and needs a lot more verbal communication than Harry is inclined to, and Meghan may feel unhappy or neglected unless there is a running conversation going on. Also, Harry is more prosaic and once a relationship is comfortably established, may take it for granted, whereas Meghan wants romantic gestures and a certain style or elegance in order to stay interested in the relationship.
Harry's tastes are simpler, and Meghan has more of an interest in art, literature, theater, culture, etc. than Harry does.
These problems certainly do not need to become major ones, but you should acknowledge your differences and confront your problems when they arise.
Both of you have Mercury conjunct, trine, or sextile Jupiter:
Both of you think in long-range, broad, philosophical terms, and you seek to see the whole picture rather than just the immediate. A shared interest in religion, Universal Law, metaphysics, and the search for Truth is apt to be an important undertone in your relationship. Long-distance travel and communications, publishing, and/or teaching are also areas of common interest.
Both of you have Venus conjunct, trine, or sextile Mars:
Both of you are warmly affectionate, passionate, expressive creatures and you need the flame of romance to be burning brightly in your lives in order to be happy. Physical love-making is extremely important to both of you, an essential aspect of your vitality and self-expression. Fortunately, you have in one another a companion who is as ardent as you are.
~ Chapter 2 ~
Major Themes in the Relationship: What Brought You Together
Harry's Asc. Opposition Meghan's Mars:
The attraction between you is very powerful and your partnership is a very close and intense one. You enjoy working together and it is also likely that you engage in competitive sports or games with each other. A negative possibility is that one of you would attempt to dominate the other, causing anger and resentment in the other. You antagonize one another at times by emphasizing your individual differences and your own needs, rather than trying to cooperate or harmonize with one another. You are able to get issues out in the open, but direct confrontation can degenerate into attack if you are not careful. Be gentler with each other!
Harry's Sun Square Meghan's Neptune:
You must guard against mutual deception and misunderstandings. Harry tends to have a glamorous and unrealistic view of Meghan, and Meghan has a tendency to unconsciously capitalize on Harry's imaginative and often simply erroneous perceptions. The tendency to be dishonest, hide things from each other, exaggerate, and spur each other to unrealistic hopes and dreams is very strong. Both of you must be able to distinguish fantasy from fact, and utilize the increased sensitivity and heightened imagination that you inspire in each other, without letting it cloud your ability to clearly and realistically see other and understand each other.
Meghan's Sun Square Harry's Saturn:
Harry must be very careful not to harshly criticize or judge Meghan. There is a strong tendency for Meghan to feel blocked, frustrated, and discouraged by Harry. Typically, Harry will feel surprised by Meghan's feelings of frustration and anger and feel that Meghan is just being overly sensitive to criticism. There is an element of truth to both viewpoints: Harry tends to be too critical of Meghan and Meghan tends to be too sensitive to the criticism; the combination can be disastrous! Meghan may try to ignore the problem but ignoring the problem will not cause the problem to disappear. This is a relationship that can help both of you mature a great deal; you are able to build a secure, stable life together and face many challenges and responsibilities together that you have been trying to avoid. However, the tendency to become overly concerned with your responsibilities and be too conservative, cautious, and restrictive towards each other must not get out of hand, or you will both feel severely confined and restricted by being together.
Meghan's Sun Trine Harry's Uranus:
Playfulness and a zest for newness infuse your relationship. You really spark each other's imagination and creativity. This quality is especially welcome in a long-term relationship because you will not fall into a lifeless routine. You spur each other to explore, take risks, and develop new creative outlets. You encourage each other's independence. There is an electric, spontaneous quality between you , and your sexual relationship is lively and exciting as well.
Harry's Asc. Trine Meghan's Venus:
Romantic attraction is strong and you both deeply admire and appreciate each other. Romantic or sentimental gestures, such as bringing home flowers, come naturally to both of you and this love affair is very important to both of you - and could possibly lead to a long-term relationship or marriage.
Meghan's Asc. Sextile Harry's Sun:
There is a pleasant, harmonious quality to your relationship that makes the two of you really enjoy your times together. Whether you are talking, playing, or taking care of daily chores together, you find that you invariably appreciate and enjoy each other's company. Regardless of whether your romantic relationship is permanent, you will always be good friends.
Meghan's Moon Square Harry's Jupiter:
You enjoy joking and kidding each other, and you spark each other's sense of humor. In fact, it is sometimes difficult to be serious with each other; the tendency to be light-hearted and jovial is too irresistible. Also, you are very supportive and encouraging to each other, but you tend to be overly optimistic about each other and make promises that you cannot fulfill. You encourage each other to be extravagant, sometimes too much so.
Meghan's Venus Sextile Harry's Saturn:
There is a high level of trust in this relationship. Both of you are willing to make sacrifices for each other, but the sacrifices are hardly noticed because you love each other, and it feels natural to give to one another. If you have children, you will find that you are able to work together very effectively as parents and meet the many trials and tribulations effectively. Your love for each other grows through the years and the respect and appreciation that you have for each other is very great indeed. This is a lasting, deep, meaningful relationship.
Meghan's Mars Trine Harry's Saturn:
You work together extremely well. You are able to focus on tasks, come to an agreement on what needs to be done, and get the job done. This is a tremendous asset for individuals that live together and build a life together because the need to coordinate on tasks, whether they are minor tasks like grocery shopping or major tasks like planning career goals, is a big part of everyone's life. You help each other to be clear about what is really important and how to accomplish your goals. You are able to concentrate and work together in a focused, disciplined, harmonious manner.
~ Chapter 3 ~
Destiny and Final Outcome of Your Relationship
Composite Sun Square Uranus:
Your relationship may or may not be long lasting, but it will always have a flavor of unpredictability, spontaneity, and surprise. Periodic unexpected events and changes create an unsettled feeling between you, as if you can never quite relax and settle down into a comfortable, established pattern. While you will never be bored with one another, neither will you ever feel quite certain or peacefully secure. However, if your temperaments enable you to be highly flexible and adventurous and willing to take risks, you may be able to ride through the ups and downs.
You are destined to act as "awakeners" for one another. One of you may open the other to something totally new and different, even shocking, which revolutionizes the way you view the world and your place in it - something you may once have considered weird or too "far out". Always there will be the element of experimentation, of following the unexpected twist in the road. Being with one another encourages you both to be more free, unconventional, and impulsive than you might be otherwise.
Composite Moon Sextile Mars:
You have an active, energizing relationship, one that enables you both to express your emotions very directly and openly. Whatever problems you do have, are not due to emotional stagnation or boredom.
Inevitably there will be emotional outbursts and honest, naked expressions of feeling. Your family life (if indeed you share this) is apt to be noisy, rambunctious, lively, and to have its share of conflicts. So, if either of you needs peace and calmness all of the time, the energy generated between the two of you may be a bit too much to handle at times.
As a couple you are more competitive, outgoing and active than either of you may be individually.
Composite Moon Square Pluto:
When you are together, deep emotions and intense, compelling, irrational energies within both of you come into play. Definitely, if you are together for any length of time, you will both undergo an emotional transformation, a soul cleansing, for being together will dredge up all of your unfinished emotional business and feelings you may not even have believed yourselves capable of. This may feel like a "fatal attraction", one that is irresistible even if one or both of you wants to run the other way.
A significant part of your purpose in coming together is to clear up and heal the past - old griefs, jealousies, wounds, and unresolved emotions, many of which you may have forgotten about until now!
Certainly, no matter how long this relationship lasts, it will be a profound, intense one. Emotionally it may feel overwhelming at times. If any emotional manipulation, domination, or abuse occurs, you both need to step back and get a clear, objective third party to help you. At times you're both apt to feel that you're in over your heads. On the other hand, though you may go through extreme emotions, you can develop an incredibly close bond.
Composite Mercury Square Jupiter:
You bring out the restless, wandering, intellectually curious and open-to-adventure sides of one another. Big visions for the future, plans of seeing the world, and/or greatly expanding in some other area of your shared lives are key themes in your relationship. Together, you are idealistic, optimistic, hopeful, expectant of good things to come, and generally philosophical about failures. One of the gifts inherent in your relationship is faith.
Inevitably you two will bite off more than you can chew and/or get involved in projects that either grow too quickly or somehow become unmanageable (bigger than you expected). Grandiose claims - not based on fraud but upon over-optimism - will be a problem at some time in your relationship, too. Overall, however, together you have the resiliency and good fortune to bounce back, time and again.
Composite Venus Conjunct Mars:
The passionate, deliciously amorous feelings you arouse in one another initially are destined always to be an important "glue" in your relationship. This powerful drive you feel toward one another will be hard to ignore, and it is unlikely the two of you will ever be "just friends". No matter what you tell yourselves, the sexual energies between you are highly charged, and the love-desire quite intense. Your feelings for each other will always be "hot” and are unlikely to ever cool to indifference. However, if other aspects of your lives bring you into conflict, your animosity toward one another would become as hot-blooded and fierce as your love. You simply will never be lukewarm toward one another. Nevertheless, prospects for deep fulfillment - at least on the physical level - and sexual harmony are excellent. This is part of what draws you together, one of the purposes of your relationship.
Composite Moon Sextile Venus:
A soft, caring, nurturing love will grow between you. The willingness to be there for one another, a sweet devotion to one another, and a desire to protect each other are an essential part of your purpose together, easing any of the problems or difficulties you face as a couple. Children may well be a beautiful part of your lives together, for a feeling of family love permeates your relationship.
Composite Moon Square Saturn:
The fate of this relationship is not especially promising, at least as far as emotional satisfaction, closeness, and intimacy is concerned. It is very difficult for you to feel and to stay emotionally connected and open to one another. You are oversensitive to criticism and lack of support from one another, and this could become a major issue between you. Through this relationship you are intended to learn about those aspects of yourselves that cause you the most difficulty, discomfort, fear, and insecurity, the barriers you have to being to close - and you evoke all of these things in one another. It is much more common to shut down and withdraw from one another in such a situation than to see it as an opportunity to learn about your weaknesses.
You will not be able to totally relax and "give in" to this relationship. Emotionally you will be forced to take care of yourself, and this can be quite fruitful, especially if you have been excessively childlike and dependent. Nevertheless, it won't be a lot of fun. Ultimately, you both may just feel lonely in this relationship.
Composite Mars Square Neptune:
Between you there is considerable confusion and struggle over two particular issues: healthy self-assertion and sexuality. Regarding the first: when you are together one or both of you lacks directness and direction, and you may feel increasingly weaker and more dependent because you surrender your right to act on your own behalf and assert yourself forthrightly. Rather than openly and directly going for what you want, you may try to obtain your desires in an underhanded, less obvious way. Anger and aggressiveness are diluted or expressed only indirectly. Instead of open confrontation, subtle attacks on the other person's self-esteem and an erosion of that person's confidence occurs.
In the arena of sexuality, confusion and deception are also issues to be dealt with. Intentional lying and cover-ups are the worst potential, but even if that doesn't happen, it is possible that an ideal of "purity", transcendence of the "animal" nature, etc. may prevent full expression on the sexual level - or at least may generate a lot of guilt.
This is a difficult pattern that in some way arises as a result of your coming together. If other indications are positive, you may well be able to overcome the more troublesome aspects of it. A commitment to honesty will be absolutely essential.
Composite Saturn Sextile Neptune:
A sense of spiritual duty, spiritual discipline, fidelity to an ideal that requires some self-sacrifice, and a desire for the blessings of your elders or a spiritual tradition - all will be a significant part of this relationship.
The two of you will find yourselves increasingly interested in simplifying your lives, eliminating the unnecessary distractions, and getting down to basics, rather than accumulating and trying to hold on to what you have. Discovering you can live on less, with great satisfaction and time for things that really matter to you, is the reward for this.
Though not a particularly exciting, glamorous, or romantic aspect of your relationship, it can be quietly fulfilling.
Composite Saturn Conjunct Pluto:
Clearly it is not the destiny of this partnership to have only ease and plenty, sweetness and light. In fact, periods of extreme hardship, difficulty, scarcity, and great stress will be endured by the two of you, especially if your relationship is a long one. At times you'll both feel that "it's you and me against the cruel world", and outside sources of support will be inadequate or nonexistent. However, you two will forge a deep bond through meeting the loss or deprivation. Furthermore, having been through the worst and confronted some of your greatest fears, both of you will discover an inner resiliency and strength which will add to the closeness you share.
~ Chapter 4 ~
Other Themes in Your Relationship
Harry's Sun in Meghan's 3rd house:
Harry openly shares thoughts and ideas with Meghan, and the two of you love to share ideas, perhaps even gossip together.
Meghan's Sun in Harry's 7th house:
Although you have opposite personalities in some ways, you complement each other well and both of you enjoy having a partner that takes care of many of the things that you prefer to avoid.
Harry's Moon in Meghan's 11th house:
You share a light-hearted, outgoing, friendly relationship. Even if your relationship becomes very close and intimate, you maintain a reasonable degree of objectivity about each other. The friendly feeling of camaraderie that you share makes your relationship enjoyable and fun, although Meghan may feel that you don't take enough time to share inner feelings and deeper concerns.
Meghan's Moon in Harry's 8th house:
As your relationship develops, a powerfully emotional bonding develops. Your feelings for each other are intense and can also be rather complex. Jealousy is possible and if things go wrong, you can hate each other with the same intensity that you once loved each other. If you marry or pool your resources but later separate from each other, you will have an extremely difficult time disentangling your mutually owned property, and you are likely to argue intensely over proper division of your joint assets.
Harry's Mercury in Meghan's 2nd house:
You enjoy planning financial strategies together, and Harry provides Meghan with lots of ideas on business ventures, investments, and practical application of job-related skills.
Meghan's Mercury in Harry's 7th house:
Your conversations are lively. It seems that both of you can't resist a debate with each other. Although you frequently disagree with each, fortunately you enjoy the lively exchange of ideas nevertheless.
Harry's Venus in Meghan's 4th house:
Meghan's deep feelings of love and admiration for Harry are not likely to evaporate over time. Both of you love your times together, especially your shared domestic life.
Meghan's Venus in Harry's 8th house:
Meghan stirs Harry's romantic and sexual feelings. Meghan is exciting, almost mysterious to Harry. An intense, but emotionally complex relationship can easily develop.
Harry's Mars in Meghan's 5th house:
The two of you make a great match for games, especially outdoor sports. Harry also encourages Meghan to develop creative talents, and you may become involved together in creative projects.
Meghan's Mars in Harry's 7th house:
Meghan has a "take charge" attitude towards this relationship. Also, Meghan comes across very strong, perhaps aggressively, at times. Harry appreciates Meghan's direct, uninhibited approach, but there is a tendency to become combative and competitive with each other at times.
Harry's Jupiter in Meghan's 6th house:
Harry loves to be of practical service and help to Meghan, though possibly reluctant to help out others. Harry takes a great interest in Meghan's health and overall well-being and helps take care of day-to-day chores.
Meghan's Jupiter in Harry's 9th house:
There is sufficient variety and expansiveness in this relationship to keep it interesting for a long time. No doubt you enjoy traveling, vacationing, socializing, and going out together, and the rich variety of experiences that you share together enriches your outlook on life and increases your appreciation of many things that you otherwise tend to be unaware of or uninvolved in.
Harry's Saturn in Meghan's 4th house:
If your relationship is a long-term one and you live together, you can expect that this relationship will bring both of you face to face with personal habits of your own that must be improved, or at least adapted to the tastes of your partner. Issues such as tidiness and neatness at home, use of abusive or foul language, choice of foods, tastes in music and decor, approaches towards raising children, etc. come to the fore. At times you will come to an impasse and feel that you cannot come to an agreement on these issues. Meghan, in particular, may become very frustrated by some of Harry's deeply ingrained, personal habits. If your ethnic backgrounds or upbringings are very different, this problem can be severe. If both of you can be tolerant, open-minded, accepting of shortcomings in your mate, and willing to learn new attitudes, you can turn potentially frustrating situations into opportunities to mature and grow emotionally.
Meghan's Saturn in Harry's 9th house:
Meghan causes Harry to question personally-held philosophical assumptions, political ideology, and religious beliefs. In fact, Meghan often relishes challenging Harry's views. If you have different beliefs, you will need to adapt to each other! Both of you will develop a more mature and realistic political, philosophical, and religious perspective through this relationship, although the learning process may not always be pleasant or easy. If either of you stubbornly clings to your own viewpoint, and is unwilling to learn from the other, you will gradually grow apart or create a rift in your relationship.
Harry's Uranus in Meghan's 5th house:
There is a strong creative impulse that is triggered when the two of you get together. You are able to create original and unusual works together and you approach daily life together in a very creative way. This enthusiasm and creativity makes life fun and interesting and also adds zest to the romantic attraction between you.
Meghan's Uranus in Harry's 10th house:
Meghan has lots of original ideas on how Harry can best achieve career goals. Meghan is likely to encourage Harry to take a more adventurous, risky route, and Meghan often feels that Harry holds back by being too conservative and security conscious. However, not all of Meghan's ideas are well founded, and Harry must have the ability to separate the really useful creative ideas from those that will only result in chaos and confusion.
Harry's Neptune in Meghan's 6th house:
Meghan is often disappointed in the way that Harry handles problems and performs various chores and tasks. Meghan is likely to feel that Harry is careless or sloppy. You approach many tasks in a very different manner from each other. This is not likely to create any serious problems and can even add some interesting variety to your lives.
Meghan's Neptune in Harry's 11th house:
You are likely to become involved in social groups, political or altruistic organizations, committees, and religious groups together. A big challenge will be how to maintain a high level of integrity and honesty in these activities so that the ideals can be reached.
Harry's Pluto in Meghan's 4th house:
A lot of powerful emotions come to the surface in this relationship. Your attachment to each other can be very intense, and the possibility of arousing jealousy or hurt feelings is very strong. Unfortunately, both of you may let the feelings boil for quite a long time before expressing them. You need to be honest and open with each other because otherwise a complex knot of feelings can develop between you, developing into a love-hate relationship.
Meghan's Pluto in Harry's 9th house:
Meghan challenges Harry's philosophical and religious views. You are likely to find yourselves in enthusiastic, and sometimes heated, conversations about politics and social issues. These conversations are penetrating and deep, and both of you are likely to find them illuminating, although often uncomfortable as well.
Meghan's Sun Trine Harry's Mars:
Successful cooperation in achieving goals and accomplishing tasks is highlighted. You make an excellent working team and you are able to assist each other in achieving specific, concrete goals. The sexual attraction between you is also very strong.
Harry's Asc. Square Meghan's Jupiter:
Meghan draws Harry out and makes Harry feel good, but Meghan also encourages Harry to be extravagant or irresponsible at times. Meghan challenges or dares Harry to be more of a gambler or more adventurous intellectually. The two of you have a lot of fun together and sometimes go overboard.
Harry's Moon Opposition Meghan's Uranus:
You spark each other's curiosity and imagination, and you have a great deal of fascination for each other. It is likely that your relationship developed suddenly and impulsively, for your feelings for each other change quickly and unexpectedly. At one moment you find each other sexually irresistible and not much later you may feel angry or indifferent to each other. Your feelings blow hot and cold in this relationship, and consequently there is a tone of instability and inconstancy. It is possible that one, or both, of you will tire of the constant fluctuations. You may feel that there is a lack of commitment, dedication, reliability, and stability, causing you to doubt the viability of the relationship. On the other hand, you may find the changes exciting and stimulating. Be grateful that there are always surprises and novelty around the corner - at least you don't have to worry about getting stuck in a rut or bored with your partner.
Meghan's Mercury Trine Harry's Uranus:
Your conversations are spirited and often exhilarating. You spark each other to view situations in a new light and you inspire creative, original, inventive ideas. This relationship inspires creativity and originality, and a fresh attitude towards life - and you should share a very interesting life together.
Harry's Venus Conjunct Meghan's Pluto:
Romantic and sexual attraction is very powerful, but is likely to have an intense, obsessive quality as well. Harry, in particular, may feel that Meghan comes on too strong or is too insatiable and demanding. Jealousy, sexual manipulation, or unrestrained emotional fervor are strong potentials between the two of you. An almost fated, love-hate kind of relationship is very possible.
Meghan's Venus Square Harry's Mars:
This is likely to be a stormy and fiery relationship. The romantic attraction between you is very strong, but your feelings are often not in tune with each other. One of you (typically Harry but sometimes Meghan) may feel sexually aroused by the other and consequently be too aggressive in approach, while the other person feels great love and affection, but is not feeling as sexually attracted. Jealousy and possessiveness are also likely. Feelings can swing back and forth, and you may not realize how much you love each other until you are away from each other.
Meghan's Venus Square Harry's Uranus:
This relationship has an erratic, unstable, but exciting quality. Sexual attraction becomes very intense at times and at these moments you may feel like you cannot live without each other. But the feelings come and go quickly, and they are not always reciprocated - your moods and desires get out of tune with each other, so that one of you may feel like partying and the other wants to have a quiet evening at home. The quality and nature of the relationship changes frequently. This is a difficult relationship to maintain over a long period of time, but it is also difficult to break such an exciting relationship as well. If you want a permanent, close relationship, then both of you will need to be extremely flexible and willing to accept unexpected changes in your relationship and lifestyle.
Harry's Jupiter Square Meghan's Saturn:
Meghan often limits, burdens, or frustrates Harry without intending to or realizing it. There is a conflict here between Meghan's needs for security, stability, and order versus Harry's desire for freedom, mobility, and expansiveness. How much, and in what ways, you spend money is probably a particularly thorny issue for you. Meghan is more careful and restrictive or disapproving of Harry's more relaxed, extravagant, or liberal approach.
Also, Meghan often seeks to control or dominate Harry, and Harry may even take a subordinate role in the relationship for a time, accepting Meghan's "discipline". Over time, however, Harry may find Meghan's subtle (or not so subtle!) criticism or constraints to be devitalizing and draining. And Harry, on the other hand, can make Meghan feel like a perpetual wet blanket or miser.
Working together or going into business as equal partners is unlikely to work out well for you. It's best if you can respect one another's differing approaches and not seek to impose your own values or styles on one another.